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Syne
Feb 18, 2019 11:21 PM
(Feb 18, 2019 09:54 PM)Leigha Wrote: This idea that as a woman, I should view all men as potential risks, is just brainwashed bullshit from radical feminism, that I just can't accept.
(Sep 23, 2018 11:41 PM)Secular Sanity Wrote: Um…you guys do realize that when we’re looking at you, we’re usually just trying to determine whether or not you’re dangerous.
But perverts obviously do take advantage of ways to invade women-only spaces, often to abuse little girls who can't defend themselves.
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Secular Sanity
Feb 19, 2019 02:28 AM
Syne Wrote:When entering a new environment, people tend to look around a lot to assess any dangers or info they may need. They don't just dart their eyes around. They focus on each thing they see long enough to categorize its danger/usefulness.
It's normal. We all do it, duh!
Men are just more dangerous than women.
Unless, of course, they’ve had a fucked up childhood.
What’s the matter, Syne? Still struggling for significance?
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Syne
Feb 19, 2019 05:02 AM
(Feb 18, 2019 09:54 PM)Leigha Wrote: This idea that as a woman, I should view all men as potential risks, is just brainwashed bullshit from radical feminism, that I just can't accept. (Sep 23, 2018 11:41 PM)Secular Sanity Wrote: Um…you guys do realize that when we’re looking at you, we’re usually just trying to determine whether or not you’re dangerous.
(Feb 19, 2019 02:28 AM)Secular Sanity Wrote: Syne Wrote:When entering a new environment, people tend to look around a lot to assess any dangers or info they may need. They don't just dart their eyes around. They focus on each thing they see long enough to categorize its danger/usefulness.
It's normal. We all do it, duh!
Men are just more dangerous than women.
Unless, of course, they’ve had a fucked up childhood.
What’s the matter, Syne? Still struggling for significance?
No, everybody doesn't size up all men for danger...as Leigha just said.
Yes, men are potentially more dangerous than women, just by dint of their relative strength. And yes, earlier in our evolution, the reticular activating system did likely develop as a measure against threats. But most healthy people nowadays rely on cues more specific than gender alone to alert them to a possible threat.
A messed up childhood can actually result in a higher propensity to violence...and irrational fears.
Hey, if you find meaningful significance in seeing all men as dangerous...
But seriously, find someone to talk to about that past. It's very hard for a person to sort out all the ramifications on their own.
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Secular Sanity
Feb 19, 2019 06:38 AM
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(Feb 19, 2019 05:02 AM)Syne Wrote: But seriously, find someone to talk to about that past. It's very hard for a person to sort out all the ramifications on their own.
I didn’t have a bad childhood. I didn’t know until recently.
When someone shares a story, you’re supposed to try to put yourself in their shoes, but you’re not supposed to chew them.
Quote:THE LONELY DOG is one that is left alone for long periods of time in an unstimulating environment. These dogs chew out of boredom. To remedy the situation several things are in order.
Dogs possess a denning instinct; let it work for you. The best way to confine a dog is with a kennel crate.
When you are ready to leave the house, put the dog in his confinement area with a couple of chewies and go. No long, sloppy goodbyes, no pleading or threatening gestures, just a cheery “see you later” or a matter-of-fact “be good,” that’s all.
Every new puppy or dog owner should expect a certain amount of destruction from curiosity-based or tension-relieving oral tendencies of the pet. The solution to the problem lies in removing the environmental cause and guiding the dog towards the appropriate objects to chew.
I’ll try to give you something to gnaw on later.
"See you later. Be good."
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Syne
Feb 19, 2019 07:39 AM
(Feb 19, 2019 06:38 AM)Secular Sanity Wrote: (Feb 19, 2019 05:02 AM)Syne Wrote: But seriously, find someone to talk to about that past. It's very hard for a person to sort out all the ramifications on their own.
I didn’t have a bad childhood. I didn’t know until recently.
When someone shares a story, you’re supposed to try to put yourself in their shoes, but you’re not supposed to chew them.
If your mother "always resented" you, it was not a good childhood. And the fact that she would admit that to you would seem to indicate a significant amount of continuing dysfunction. Children tend to accept their circumstances uncritically, thinking things are normal. And adults have to overcome significant discomfort to revisit those sorts of events with unblinking eyes. That's why a third-party sounding board can be helpful to put things into perspective, even just by verbalizing them.
I do put myself in your shoes, which is why I said I don't judge people for things that happen to them, advise finding someone to talk to, and haven't even touched the subtext.
And I understand where the lashing out comes from.
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Secular Sanity
Feb 19, 2019 07:52 AM
It’s an old shoe and it doesn’t fit. Keep it.
I don't have time to fend off your usual display of false assumptions.
Meh.
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Syne
Feb 19, 2019 08:24 PM
(Feb 19, 2019 07:52 AM)Secular Sanity Wrote: It’s an old shoe and it doesn’t fit. Keep it.
So the subtext is obvious.
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Leigha
Feb 19, 2019 08:31 PM
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And it's not to say that I've never been in risky/dangerous situations with men, but I don't view men as a whole, as ''dangerous.'' I also see the opposite be true, in terms of how many men view women. Male rights activists often see women as ''the enemy,'' and rant on about ''hypergamy.'' Perhaps, we all have to stop drawing lines in the sand, and find some common ground in order to move forward.
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Syne
Feb 19, 2019 08:59 PM
(Feb 19, 2019 08:31 PM)Leigha Wrote: And it's not to say that I've never been in risky/dangerous situations with men, but I don't view men as a whole, as ''dangerous.'' I also see the opposite be true, in terms of how many men view women. Males rights activists often see women as ''the enemy,'' and rant on about ''hypergamy.'' Perhaps, we all have to stop drawing lines in the sand, and find some common ground in order to move forward.
I agree. While I do agree with most criticisms of what feminism has done to the culture, many men's rights activists tend to take it too far the other way, with things like MGTOW (men going their own way). Alpha males don't have a problem with women seeking hypergamous relationships, so a lot of their vehemence is just being butt-hurt.
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Secular Sanity
Feb 19, 2019 09:20 PM
(Feb 19, 2019 08:24 PM)Syne Wrote: (Feb 19, 2019 07:52 AM)Secular Sanity Wrote: It’s an old shoe and it doesn’t fit. Keep it.
So the subtext is obvious.
It's a genetic fallacy.
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