Drinking gin makes you feel sexier

#11
Oh, so you're just being a "nice guy". Okay.
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#12
(Jul 31, 2018 08:25 PM)Syne Wrote: Too bad spirits don't make the imbiber look sexier.

Alcohol does make the drunk person perceive other people as being sexier. "Beer goggles".

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/...the-answer

While I don't necessarily believe everything I read in Psychology Today, I have verified 'beer goggles' many times in my own (drunken) experience.

So if the imbiber wants alcohol to make him/herself look sexier, just imbibe in a group where other potential sex-partners are drinking too.
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#13
(Aug 1, 2018 04:21 AM)Syne Wrote:
(Aug 1, 2018 01:15 AM)Secular Sanity Wrote:
(Aug 1, 2018 12:42 AM)Syne Wrote: It's actually a man's logical nature that allows him to be objective enough about the emotions to lead the interaction in a positive direction, instead of being so reactive.

Oh, I see. So you're just manipulating her emotions. Gotcha.

Why, do you feel manipulated any time you enjoy a guy's company? Or do you feel like you got something you wanted?

(Aug 1, 2018 04:52 AM)Secular Sanity Wrote: Oh, so you're just being a "nice guy". Okay.

You're evading the question again. And you still having said what "nice guy" traits you're supposedly attracted to...if any.

"Nice guys" don't typically have the social intelligence to provide a very emotionally engaging experience. They're bound up in the social conditioning of seeking validation from women, i.e. boring.

But do enlighten us about all your experience to the contrary. Rolleyes

(Aug 1, 2018 05:07 AM)Yazata Wrote:
(Jul 31, 2018 08:25 PM)Syne Wrote: Too bad spirits don't make the imbiber look sexier.
So if the imbiber wants alcohol to make him/herself look sexier, just imbibe in a group where other potential sex-partners are drinking too.

I guess that works. Not a crutch I'd like to rely on.
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#14
With a 40 oz bottle I can either make 40 women feel sexier or just give one woman a drink while I down the remaining 39 oz just to confirm test results, all in the interest of science of course.

Who funds these studies? Big waste?
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#15
(Aug 1, 2018 06:03 AM)Syne Wrote: You're evading the question again. And you still having said what "nice guy" traits you're supposedly attracted to...if any.

"Nice guys" don't typically have the social intelligence to provide a very emotionally engaging experience. They're bound up in the social conditioning of seeking validation from women, i.e. boring.

From what you and C2 tell me, they're not just seeking validation.  They're seeking SEX.

I wasn't avoiding it.  I thought I answered your question and I just feel a little silly having to point out the obvious.

Hmm…a nice person:

What does that mean to you, Syne?  Doing things for people?  Buying them gifts? This, too, can be a form of power.  

This is where your altruistic nature can shine or blow up in your face.  Doing something for someone requires empathy because you have to put yourself in the other person’s shoes.

*sniff-sniff* We can smell a motive behind manipulative self-presentation from a mile away.

I don’t do anything for anyone that I don’t want to do.  If I buy a gift for you, it’s because I enjoyed the challenge of discovering something about you. If I bake a pie for you, it’s because I was in the mood to bake a pie.  If I relieve your suffering in some way, it’s because your suffering was affecting me. Most people do these things to be admired, to gain approval, or because they expect something in return.  They also have the tendency to over value their contributions.  It’s not a competition. A friendship is a gift, in and of itself.  It requires empathy, not strategy.  

"A gift consists not in what is done or given, but in the intention of the giver or doer." – Seneca

This is why Wheelis is right, and this is why women want to want to be understood, to be known. Oh, sure, there’s lots of lip service to that notion but this is not the intention.  Undecided

"This was not my object, is not for me essential. I could live without it."–Wheelis
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#16
(Aug 1, 2018 03:52 PM)Secular Sanity Wrote:
(Aug 1, 2018 06:03 AM)Syne Wrote: You're evading the question again. And you still having said what "nice guy" traits you're supposedly attracted to...if any.

"Nice guys" don't typically have the social intelligence to provide a very emotionally engaging experience. They're bound up in the social conditioning of seeking validation from women, i.e. boring.

From what you and C2 tell me, they're not just seeking validation.  They're seeking SEX.
So you can have sex with a man with validating him at all? Is he asleep? O_o
Sex is a huge, some might say ultimate, sign of acceptance and approval. Or do you have sex with guys you don't accept and approve of? O_o
That would sound like a personal issue.
Quote:I wasn't avoiding it.  I thought I answered your question and I just feel a little silly having to point out the obvious.
For the umpteenth time, where? You've talked about "interesting" guys, but the question was "what 'nice guy' traits do you find attractive".
Quote:Hmm…a nice person:

What does that mean to you, Syne?  Doing things for people?  Buying them gifts? This, too, can be a form of power.  
You're still evading the question...with questions. Dodgy
Quote:This is where your altruistic nature can shine or blow up in your face.  Doing something for someone requires empathy because you have to put yourself in the other person’s shoes.
Yep, like genuinely wanting to provide and woman with an emotionally engaging experience.
Quote:*sniff-sniff* We can smell a motive behind manipulative self-presentation from a mile away.
Which is why "nice guys" fail. They don't even have to give gifts. Just trying to be what they've been told women want is, itself, a spineless manipulation. And all women at least instinctively know this...and only settle for a "nice guy" when they need a cowed provider.
Quote:This is why Wheelis is right, and this is why women want to want to be understood, to be known. Oh, sure, there’s lots of lip service to that notion but this is not the intention.  Undecided
Sure. Women want to feel emotionally understood. Do you think they can get that from a "nice guy"? O_o

But you're either STILL avoiding the question, or you agree with me...that "nice guys" are not attractive.
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#17
You fit the definition of a troll to a tee. All you have going for you is consistency.  Correct me if I’m wrong, but I don’t think that I’ve ever even learned anything from you.  I’ll just wait until you have something interesting to say.  I’m sure it’ll be awhile.

P.S. If you’re planning to verbally engage them, you might want to offer them something stronger—stronger than alcohol.

Just saynin'
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#18
As expected, after all your avoidance fails, you just beg off.

Learn something? Right here: https://www.scivillage.com/thread-3027-p...ml#pid8084
Although I doubt you have the integrity to admit it. Just like you don't have the integrity to support claims you've made about "nice guys".

You're not likely to ever be interested in anything that runs counter to your own biases.
And quit flirting with me.
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#19
A slug of gin before going over the top creates a sexier corps(e).
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#20
(Aug 1, 2018 07:33 PM)Secular Sanity Wrote: You fit the definition of a troll to a tee. All you have going for you is consistency.  Correct me if I’m wrong, but I don’t think that I’ve ever even learned anything from you.  I’ll just wait until you have something interesting to say.  I’m sure it’ll be awhile.

P.S. If you’re planning to verbally engage them, you might want to offer them something stronger—stronger than alcohol.

Just saynin'

"Consistency is the hobgoblin of little minds."--Oscar Wilde
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