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Self-help is a kind of magical thinking: that’s why it works

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C C Offline
https://aeon.co/essays/self-help-is-a-ki...y-it-works

EXCERPT: [...] Looking across traditional self-help, I found many prescriptions on how to manage one’s mental life to become an adaptable person and align one’s beliefs with new ways of behaving towards some larger purpose. Like the ancient Brahmanic books that dictate ritual processes to put the universe in order, popular psychology coached me into feeling more in control of my thoughts and actions through both therapeutic practices (‘maintain focus no matter what’) and metaphysical narrative (‘when thinking about why you missed a shot, you damage flow by separating mind from body’).

The broad claim is that one’s hopes and dreams – as materially substantiated in the form of job opportunities, romantic relationship partners, spiritual pacification, calming the demons of desire, and just plain making the most of life – can be fulfilled through simply thinking such wishes true. That sounds like magical thinking to me. Still, maybe magical thinking has some value. Could it even work?

Perhaps popular psychology is essentially the same as reading coffee grinds or listening to the advice of a wise minister. If success is conceived as a method to bridge the gap between aspirations and dissatisfactions, then it can be helpful. For many, the practical strategies and principles that constitute the philosophical and ethical core of self-help satisfy the need for hope and empowerment over self-assessed shortcomings. If the purpose of religious ritual is to validate one’s beliefs by satisfying the very emotions that motivate belief, then self-help is a remnant of religious thinking, and belief is truly the engine of magical thinking. Indeed, self-help and religion not only play similar roles as belief and ritual states; they also recruit common mental processes, such as emotions, social needs, and inhibitions.

Magical thinking might be helpful if you have a vague metaphysical issue to deal with, but if your issue is a lack of effort, guidance, training, imagination etc, then in most cases magical thinking will be, at best, useless. Ultimately, the utility of popular psychology might be as a placebo that confirms and provides rituals to enact the reader’s beliefs; in this light, popular psychology is the spiritual self-medication of our times. We know that when animals are placed in helpless positions within a laboratory setting they engage in activities that seem to be associated with a reward or schedule. They engage in this adjunctive behaviour as a way of managing their anxiety....
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Magical Realist Offline
I've always been skeptical of self-help psychologies because they overlook that the person doing the help is the same person needing help. How do I know my goals and ambitions aren't themselves at fault? How do I know I'm not just compensating for my lack of self-esteem by trusting some author selling books with my own personal development? It's nice to have a project of self-betterment to give myself meaning. A nice objective methodology to achieve happiness. But what if that craving to become someone is itself the problem? What if the idealization of some future state is a symptom of my own sickness? What if it's really all about just accepting who I am already? I'm sure there are hundreds of self-help books on that view already. But I don't need to spend $15.00 for a book to tell me that.
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RainbowUnicorn Offline
(Feb 10, 2017 03:42 AM)C C Wrote: https://aeon.co/essays/self-help-is-a-ki...y-it-works

EXCERPT: [...] I found many prescriptions on how to manage one’s mental life to become an adaptable person and align one’s beliefs with new ways of behaving

become an adaptable person
align one’s beliefs with new ways of
behaving

... change who you are
... fashionable concept association of current trends
... socially observed practices of group interaction

why don't you just help yourself
the lord helps those who help themself
common sense is not soo common
if everyone just stopped and thought a little more about what they were doing

all very anachranistic
now lets compare this with addictive personality traites in a modern functional process of group 3rd person acceptance projection.
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Ben the Donkey Offline
(Feb 12, 2017 09:58 PM)Magical Realist Wrote: ...How do I know my goals and ambitions aren't themselves at fault? How do I know I'm not just compensating for my lack of self-esteem by trusting some author selling books with my own personal development? It's nice to have a project of self-betterment to give myself meaning. A nice objective methodology to achieve happiness. But what if that craving to become someone is itself the problem? What if the idealization of some future state is a symptom of my own sickness? What if it's really all about just accepting who I am already? I'm sure there are hundreds of self-help books on that view already. But I don't need to spend $15.00 for a book to tell me that.

Generally speaking, books on the subject achieve only one purpose (other than the obvious, i.e. to garner a profit for the author), and that is to help you become acceptable to society.
Given the premise that society is itself an evolutionary construct (the concept of which is already demonstrably successful), the answers to your first questions should follow from there. Well... perhaps not answers, but certainly further, more in-depth questions. 
Unfortunately, most of us don't have an lifespan adequate enough to provide those answers... some don't even have one long enough to know the right questions (the late Douglas Adams has been on my mind lately).

IOW, those books will only "work" if you have already decided that it is you, in point of fact, who is at fault. Which is the natural decision of any who find themselves at odds with convention (and, by extension, with society at large). 

Take care to note that that I'm not in any way alluding to that "natural decision" as being philosophically or intellectually correct, any more than I'm indicating it isn't, depending entirely upon circumstances as it is.

Heh.
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