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Leigha Offline
(Sep 5, 2019 11:34 PM)Syne Wrote:
(Sep 5, 2019 11:10 PM)Leigha Wrote:
(Sep 5, 2019 10:50 PM)Syne Wrote:
(Sep 5, 2019 03:10 AM)Leigha Wrote: I really wish that name calling wasn't so common on here...it really ruins good discussions/threads. Of course, spirited/heated debates sometimes happen...maybe ad homs are to be expected now and again, but calling someone a ''piece of shit?'' Repeatedly? Sigh.

As usual, you cite the reply in kind to name-calling, instead of the one who always starts it.  Dodgy
But, you don't have to continue it.  Blush  For even yourself, like just to hold back and not react like that...sometimes, that feels better, in the end.

I should go back and see when this history started between you two. lol I feel like I've missed something...

I've tried that, and it never did stem the tide of hatred spewing from him...because he always starts it, with little to no provocation. And why is it incumbent upon me to stop it anyway. Why is MR especially incapable of not STARTING the name-calling, and why do you accept that? Is it because he's gay? Because you like him and you have a double standard? Or that I consistently reply in a more measured fashion while he doesn't?

The history is that MR has a deep-seated hatred for me because I simply disagree with him. And disagreeing with MR leads to him attacking the person, and if you stand up to his bullshit, he just starts spewing insults.

And this community largely enables and reinforces his behavior, by ignoring his name-calling and often tacitly agreeing with it. The only way to stop bad behavior, without moderation, is for the community to decide that certain behavior is unacceptable FROM ANYONE. Not just from people you dislike. And consistently calling it out as bad behavior.

Personally, I don't think the people around here have the wherewithal to do so. They like the comfort of their own biased bubble, and MR is their guard dog. If people cared if their own dog barked, they would train it not to.
I don't disagree, at all. And I don't dislike you, Syne...fwiw. I think you have offered a lot of valuable insights into things I don't always consider. I do like MR, though...and wish he didn't name call you, either. 

No one is perfect, of course. I've said things in the spur of the moment, that looking back on it, wasn't appropriate. To you, and maybe to others. For that, I'm regretful...my apologies, fwiw.

I guess I'm being a Pollyanna to want everyone to get along...perfectly.  Blush That's not real life, I suppose.



Anyway, in other news, I've had an exceptional work day. #optimismwins
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confused2 Offline
Nice one Leigha.
If Syne feels he is being unfairly treated because he isn't generally liked then IMHO he is wrong on at least one point.
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Syne Offline
(Sep 5, 2019 11:56 PM)Leigha Wrote: I don't disagree, at all. And I don't dislike you, Syne...fwiw. I think you have offered a lot of valuable insights into things I don't always consider. I do like MR, though...and wish he didn't name call you, either. 

No one is perfect, of course. I've said things in the spur of the moment, that looking back on it, wasn't appropriate. To you, and maybe to others. For that, I'm regretful...my apologies, fwiw.

I guess I'm being a Pollyanna to want everyone to get along...perfectly.  Blush That's not real life, I suppose.

I'd have a lot more respect for the community here if it actually called MR on his bad behavior, instead of criticizing only the response. I really don't expect that to ever happen though. Luckily I have thick skin. It's only the double standards and hypocrisy that bothers me. If I picked one person here, other than MR, to attack unprovoked as MR does me, there would be cries for moderation and banning, no doubt. I believe there have been several threads in the vein, even without me behaving as bad as MR regularly does.
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Magical Realist Offline
LOL! If I'm the culprit here then why does everyone dislike you Syne? Must have something to do with the way you constantly insult and put people down before they've even said anything bad to you. Your record speaks for itself in this forum. And everybody knows it. Your whiney bitchy hypercritical posts tear down everything that is good and enjoyable about this group. Some posters have even been driven away by you. If anyone should've been banned long ago it's you. This forum was such a comfortable and relaxed gathering place before you came along. Now it's more like a back alley fight club.
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Syne Offline
(Sep 6, 2019 01:49 AM)Magical Realist Wrote: LOL! If I'm the culprit here then why does everyone dislike you Syne? Must have something to do with the way you constantly insult and put people down before they've even said anything bad to you. Your record speaks for itself in this forum. And everybody knows it. Your whiney bitchy hypercritical posts tear down everything that is good and enjoyable about this group. Some posters have even been driven away by you. If anyone should've been banned long ago it's you. This forum was such a comfortable and relaxed gathering place before you came along. Now it's more like a back alley fight club.

And here's more of MR's unsupported lies...just to justify his objectively bad behavior.
Luckily for him, enough people either here share his propensity for vehemently disliking people who simply disagree with them or excuse the bad behavior of those they like.
And where I'm only talking about the community members voluntarily treating bad behavior from everyone the same, he, of course, jumps to wanting people banned. Because dissenting opinions ruin his pretty little bubble. Rolleyes
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Magical Realist Offline
Quote:vehemently disliking people who simply disagree with them

Nope. Can't be that since I and Yazata disagree on alot of things and we still get along fine. Must be in your mannerism and attitude then, treating people with disdain and disrespect just because they dare to call you on your alt right bullshit.
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Syne Offline
(Sep 6, 2019 03:34 AM)Magical Realist Wrote:
Quote:vehemently disliking people who simply disagree with them

Nope. Can't be that since I and Yazata disagree on alot of things and we still get along fine. Must be in your mannerism and attitude then, treating people with disdain and disrespect just because they dare to call you on your alt right bullshit.

No, Yaz has either just never disagreed on any of your hot button topics or doesn't bother to challenge you. And that's what you want...to air your opinions without challenge...as if this forum were your own personal fiefdom or your social media.
And see, even just discussing your bad behavior you can't help but name-call...and again demonstrating said bad behavior.
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Magical Realist Offline
Quote:No, Yaz has either just never disagreed on any of your hot button topics or doesn't bother to challenge you.

No..he just knows how to disagree without attacking a poster and disrespecting them. It's called maturity and class, something you would do well to learn from him.
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Leigha Offline
I'm having a great Friday. Who else had a great week? Hmm?

Let bygones be bygones.

Wait, what's a bygone, anyway?  Dodgy
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Syne Offline
(Sep 6, 2019 04:39 AM)Magical Realist Wrote:
Quote:No, Yaz has either just never disagreed on any of your hot button topics or doesn't bother to challenge you.

No..he just knows how to disagree without attacking a poster and disrespecting them. It's called maturity and class, something you would do well to learn from him.

Apparently something you need to learn from Yaz, as you are the one who starts attacking the person first...likely because you imagine something is disrespecting when it's not intended that way. So your hatred is just a self-fulfilling prophecy.
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