(Mar 17, 2019 06:13 PM)C C Wrote: It's a tad amusing to stumble across radio or TV tabloid shows and "human interest" headlines in the context of today's blunt, "Dear Abby" advice givers (like this one as example), that either crudely analyze or tentatively fret over some "new normal" with regard to obliging male expectations.
As if it matters one whit, these "Are personal boundaries being violated?" explorations of cosmetic surgery demands and extreme/forceful versions of sex practices becoming commonplace. Since the appeasing subset and the next generation subset of young women (and appeasing gay slash trans dates, when that's the case) are just going to keep accommodating whatever graduated next-level, "pioneering" and occasionally bizarre cravings that these guys continue to develop in the future. Till whatever _X_ does become an entrenched expectation.
Maybe you shouldn't be accepting what a pornographer (and presumably porn "performer") deems a "new normal". https://slate.com/author/stoya
Personal boundaries can only be violated either criminally or due to a lack of defining/defending them. If it's the former, press charges, and if it's the latter, learn to set and jealously guard your own personal boundaries. Violating your own boundaries to appease others is a personal problem. No one knows your boundaries unless you express them AND don't abandon them at the first sign of pressure.
Was the sexual revolution all about women violating their own personal boundaries to accommodate guys? That's where all this started. Women wanting to be as sexually free as men, and men subsequently treating women as if they have the same sexual interests as men. The latter does not generally happen without the former.