Apr 23, 2019 05:26 AM
I think so. About two years ago, a friend of mine broke a confidence with me. I shared a private matter with him, and he shared it with others. He apologized for doing so, and I accepted it. We moved on. Then, he did it a second time, when I shared another private matter. I decided to just go ''no contact,'' and blocked his phone number, and email. No warnings, no more discussions. Didn't tell him how I felt, like I had done the first time. I heard through a mutual friend that he has been ''desperate'' to correct this mistake. He believes that he deserves a second chance to make things right with our friendship. We were friends for about seven years.
The thing is, I don't really have any animosity towards him. It's not a matter of forgiving him, or holding onto a grudge. I wish him the best, but simply don't see him as a friend, anymore. I don't wish to open up the lines of communication, and it's really as simple as that.
What are your thoughts on forgiveness? Do you see it as an either/or kind of dilemma? Or do you feel that a third option is needed, when we just don't feel like forgiveness is really ours to even give. Perhaps that's how I could say it best. I'd appreciate any real life examples you'd like to share, if you're willing.
The thing is, I don't really have any animosity towards him. It's not a matter of forgiving him, or holding onto a grudge. I wish him the best, but simply don't see him as a friend, anymore. I don't wish to open up the lines of communication, and it's really as simple as that.
What are your thoughts on forgiveness? Do you see it as an either/or kind of dilemma? Or do you feel that a third option is needed, when we just don't feel like forgiveness is really ours to even give. Perhaps that's how I could say it best. I'd appreciate any real life examples you'd like to share, if you're willing.