(Dec 18, 2016 07:03 PM)C C Wrote: [ -> ] (Dec 18, 2016 05:09 PM)Carol Wrote: [ -> ]I definitely thought you are on Syne's side and being as supportive or him as CC is. CC strongly supports Syne with positive points, and they tend to make a person more self-confident, thinking they are doing the right thing. While the negative points have the opposite effect.
Not too long ago SciVillage only had a tiny amount of members participating on a regular basis. As long as newcomers weren't spammers in disguise I'd give them points so they would feel more encouraged to participate. If they started discussions or kicked them along, were sci-tech or philosophical slash critically thinking oriented -- for any of those reasons I'd especially make sure they garnered an adequate rep. I didn't care if they had views, interests, or attitudes that might clash with other perspectives, because a mix of differences often seems to be what fuels activity on other boards.
But SciVillage has reached the point where it can run itself now without volunteer "daycare" nudging it along in the background, such as me anachronistically assessing affairs in the context of an earlier era of the forum. Time for all of us henceforth to be left to "fend on our own" as far as rep points.
being somewhat new i was not familiarised with the mechanism of Rep points.
i thought they were a collective margin of online and posting count numbers like an activity monitor count points system lolz
Carol was my first rep points i gave and now it looks like my last.
fair enough. i came back to put some on for you CC because i wanted to agree with your conviviality of group support ethos
commendable.
in a western world of hijacked popularity polls and miss directed pay perview media channels, maybe its better to not have any form of polling around the board.
let us be the innovators, renovators & culminators not just arbitrary instigators.
as you were
everyone has buttons.
sometimes we get into patterns of behaviour for one reason or another.
christmass is a bizar time of year as it mashes things up.
expectations,, hopes, dreams, wins, losses, failures, desires, ideals, darkness, light...
it mashes it all up into a big lump and rolls it around in public and private life pervading all realms of basic human interaction.
sometimes(yes myself included) we get into patterns of behaviours which allows buttons to have their normal "break glass" cover removed and just sitting there where people can see them and push them, and if there is one thng i know for sure, it is that some people will always push the button no matter what it says or what it does, just to be able to push it.
Thats why you would never have the nuclear launch button sitting there, because you can guarantee millions(literally) of people would have pushed it at some stage in their life.
hopefully to see now that at such a time they had completely disconnected with the reality of them being in a better place today.
If you identify your pattern, and feel liek your kinda spinnign your wheels or looping in circles, or on th emerry go round and you realise
"i want to get off"
you need to make small changes, recognise that your in this pattern, and then start to gradually steer out of the circle.
give yourself some emotional room to move so your not reacting to everything.
put up little sign boards in your mid for yourself "im reacting take 5 maybe dont respond and come back to this later when im feeling more centred, rather than reactive"
passion is awesome, but emotionally thrashing about because you need to create some more personal space and deal with some issue or take things a little slower, is a commonly miss understood idea of what passion truly is.
hope that doesnt sound lecturious.
P.S oh yeah i forgot a real big one for christmass and new years.. and ironically that kinda also is quite somewhat kinda qwasi related sorta.
new behaviours...
all the new years resolutional nonsense(i call it nonsense because the reality is a lot more serious and requires concerted effort and considerable ongoing action)
changing behaviours we are not completely happy with is a huge thing for christmass.
ironically soo that is probably one of if not the most difficult thing humans do.
changing actual core behaviours to become a different person.. per say different as much as different is to behold from the perception of knowing from the reality of doing... et all etc...
(we know what we want to be doing so we are arguably not becoming different#, but more soo evolving in a positive manner)
#what we know, we know.
what we know, we don't know.
what we don't know, that we don't know.
