Quote:So in real life we don’t have to have a defining characteristic. No one is going to turn is into an animal if we’re single.

But we can extrapolate. When you commit to a relationship, there’s always a cost. In most cases, this is a matter of losing a bit of your individuality. Instead of being a single entity, you’re now part of a couple. You can’t just move into whatever apartment you want. You have to consider how the move will affect the relationship. If the apartment you want is 30 minutes away from where your significant other lives…that could be a problem. If you want to live in the middle of downtown and they don’t…that could be a problem. You have to compromise.

But this can be bigger than compromise. If you love NYC but your significant other gets a job in San Francisco…do you move?

What if you go on a few dates with someone, are falling for them, then they tell you they have a child? Does that change things for you? Do you flinch? Or are you fine with it?

None of these things are as serious as having to blind yourself, but they are examples of the cost of a relationship.

https://filmcolossus.com/single-post/2017/08/31/Explaining-the-end-of-THE-LOBSTER-how-philosophical-endings-differ-from-the-norm-and-why