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EXCERPT: . . . I didn’t learn about abrosexuality until two years ago, when I was 30. Up until that point, I’d struggled to identify what my sexuality was because it fluctuated so rapidly.

There were times that I too scoffed, chastising myself for being so uncertain of who I was. It wasn’t that I couldn’t make my mind up, but rather my identity shifted.

One day I felt like I was a lesbian, yet days or weeks later, I’d feel more aligned with bisexuality. My sexuality was fluid.

Before learning about abrosexuality, I felt lost, as if out at sea. I also felt like a fraud because of how much I changed my identity when chatting with loved ones.

No one was intentionally hurtful, but I’d get the occasional, ‘but you said you were a lesbian only last week’. They didn’t understand and, at that time, I didn’t have the right words to explain myself.

It was only when I was reading the Instagram page of Zoe Stoller, a US based creator, educator, and social worker, who seeks to improve the visibility of the LGBTQ+ community, that I saw the term abrosexuality for the first time.

You know in cartoons when a lightbulb appears above their heads? That’s how it felt when I read their post. Finally, I feel seen.

Yet, while discovering a new term for me has been hugely beneficial to understanding myself better, to some people, my identity is one that evokes confusion... (MORE - missing details)

According to scientific consensus, sexual orientation is not a choice....
- https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sexual_fluidity


"Scientific consensus" seems to be the catchall for anything that cannot actually be shown to be true with evidence alone. There's enough uncertainty that consensus must make up the difference.

There is no consensus on the exact cause of developing a sexual orientation, but genetic, hormonal, social and cultural influences have been examined. Scientists believe that it is caused by a complex interplay of genetic, hormonal, and environmental influences.


So consensus on it not being a choice, but no consensus on how it's not a choice. At least there's more allowance for cultural and environmental influences. Once upon a time, most were far too ideological to accept that possibility.